Has it ever occurred to you that more than half of the thoughts that you are processing in your mind are fiction, just pure plain fiction? Sounds strange, but it’s true. Our mind is capable of creating stories and melodramas which have never occurred in real life. There are numerous hours in a day, wherein, if you don’t train your mind to get occupied in things that actually matter in life, it will start creating a web of thoughts which have no meaning, and may never actually be true in real life.
I call this thing, “The little birdy”. The little birdy is constantly on a move in our head, waiting for the moment when we can fuel it up, giving it the fruit of life, after which, it becomes unstoppable, until it is strongly forced to disconnect.
In our day to day lives, there are numerous things, people, incidents which have a deep impact on our minds. If we get disturbed by someone’s words or actions, and later when we think about what had happened, the little birdy comes into action. We think about what else that person might be thinking or saying about us, and there are different clips that start playing in our head, and yes, I am talking about visual clips. We start enacting in our heads, mostly as victims, and we try to visualize the other person as someone who he/she may not be in real life. This makes us susceptible to always look down upon the other person.
Negative thoughts don’t need much to multiply in our mind. A little fuel goes a long way. I have seen an important quality in successful people. They don’t fuel negative thoughts, or if I may say so, they don’t fuel negative people as well. Because at the end of the day, both are a waste of time. Negative thoughts is what we create in our mind by feeding the birdy, and negative people can be made to spread their thoughts by telling them that they are wrong. Try to talk to a pessimistic person, and you will understand what I am saying. They can drown you into the sea of hopeless talks, and sometimes, it is difficult to even prove them wrong because they are self obsessed with their own ideas and understanding. You might actually end up looking like a fool in front of them. So, keep safe distance from such people, and don’t fiddle with their minds.
The best way to avoid having the useless thoughts is to keep ourselves busy. The tasks at hand keep us occupied, and the free time can be utilized in pursuing our hobbies. There are millions of things to do if one wants to, like, read a book, go to the park, go for a run, write an article, climb that damn mountain. But definitely, there are times when all we want to do is introspect. So the negative and useless thoughts are bound to come, we just need to let them pass, and think about better things.
The important thing to understand and be successful in life is to take life as it comes. Whatever happened has happened, lets learn from each negative incident, and be happy about the positives in our life. Let’s not give fuel to useless thoughts, let’s not feed the little birdy in our head. The world will be a better place then. If not for everyone, but for you, definitely!! Till then.